Dear Therapist: Can I Ever Get Over My Spouse’s Death?

Dear Therapist: Can I Ever Get Over My Spouse’s Death?

We had been married for 47 years, and we can’t visualize life without her.

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Dear Therapist,

I will be a reasonably successful attorney that is international. My partner of 47 years died final December. It is often the worst 90 days of my entire life, and my despair will not disappear completely.

The length of time will this carry on? We still anticipate her in the future away from her space daily. Can I go to Alcoholics meetings that are anonymous We have no aspire to drink—just to talk? See a thanatologist? Can there be any such thing to relieve the solitude?

AnonymousMexico City and Ny

I’m therefore sorry for the tremendous loss. We that is amazing after nearly half a hundred years, your life had been intricately woven together, and 3 months you love, but all that went with your marriage—the feeling of being deeply known and accepted, the private jokes and references and language accrued over decades, the dailiness of your routines, the shared memories that now are yours alone to carry ago you lost not just the person. […]